Archive for February, 2008

Michelle Hambrick asked:




So, you think your boyfriend may be cheating on you, but you are hesitant to confront him about it? It’s okay, many women have been there. You want the truth, but at the same time, you afraid your suspicions may be wrong. The only thing to do is learn the signs of a cheating boyfriend, and then watch for those warnings. This will either confirm or dispel your thoughts. Read on for 3 of the signs you can look out for.

No Longer Has Time For You

If the two of you do not live together, it may be hard to catch him at home anymore. When you leave a message on his answering machine, he doesn’t respond. He won’t answer his cell phone either. When you finally get in touch when him, he brushes it all off with “I’ve been busy.” This is a definite cause for concern…and may make you wonder what is all of a sudden occupying his time.

Begins Working Late… All the Time

This can be a tough one, because for some companies, mandatory overtime can happen on occasion. Don’t worry though, because there are ways you can find out if he’s really in the office. One of the easiest methods is to give him a call when he’s supposed to be still at work.

Have something genuine to say, or it will look as if you are just checking up on him. If you happen to run into one of his co-workers, you may mention the long hours everyone’s having to put in. You may be surprised when that person tells you no one works past 5pm.

Your Sex Life Greatly Changes

A significant increase or decrease in the amount of intimacy you two are having can be a sign of a cheating boyfriend. He may not seem interested at all, when before he wanted it all the time. Also, he may want to do it all the time, including trying many different techniques and positions. This can be normal, but if the sex has always been mediocre before, where do you think he’s learning all of his new tricks??

Discovering the signs of a cheating boyfriend is easy to do once you know what to look out for. Don’t jump to conclusions too early in the game, just in case you are wrong. Instead, sit back and collect evidence to support your accusations before confronting your man. Trust me, it will be much easier that way.

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Gillian Reynolds asked:




Unfortunately many marriages today are impacted by one spouse committing adultery. Even though we tend to assume that it’s the husband who wanders outside the marriage vows more often, that’s not always the case. If you have been cheated on you are likely feeling an entire range of difficult emotions. Even with all the pain and frustration you are experiencing you may feel that you want to save the marriage. There are things you can do that will help with the process of healing after an affair. If you want your marriage to survive infidelity you must first give yourself time.

It’s important when you are focused on healing after an affair to try and let the anger go. You likely experienced a feeling of unending rage after discovering the person you were married to was being unfaithful. Anger is a very intense emotion and if you are constantly mad at your spouse it’s going to damage the relationship, maybe to the point that it’s not salvageable. Getting past the anger can be a challenge but you must try to do it. It’s really the foundation you need to start rebuilding the relationship.

Talking to someone understanding and open minded can be incredibly helpful when you are dealing with the aftermath of infidelity. Although it’s always a wise idea to seek out the help of a therapist, if you have a trusted friend they can prove beneficial too. You just need someone who can understand the range of emotions that you are experiencing and also a person who will listen without passing judgment on either you or your spouse. Another way to express everything that you are feeling is to keep a journal. You can write in it as often as you feel it’s necessary. This is a great tool to help you vent your emotions without it impacting your relationship with your spouse.

Concentrating on all the things that have been positive within your marriage goes a long way to help with healing after an affair. If you and your spouse spent a lot of time enjoying a hobby together or you used to take vacations, just the two of you, do that again. You need to work together to rediscover what drew you to one another in the first place. Spend time together doing things you both love and you’ll feel that special connection with each other again.

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Infidelity Help For a Cheating Spouse

Edward Talurdey asked:




Whether you call it cheating, unfaithfulness, adultery, an affair, or marital infidelity, it causes devastating pain and major crises in marriages. Surprisingly, half of marriages survive infidelity and some even get better. Infidelity spurs 50% of couples who experience it to reassess their marriages and make changes, often with the help of counselors. About 15% of wives and 25% of husbands cheat.

Causes of Infidelity

The causes of infidelity are numerous and can be simple or complicated. Affairs occur in both happy and unhappy marriages. Usually, both spouses are responsible for the situation. The causes of infidelity include: a mid-life or pre-midlife crisis, low self-esteem, lack of love and attention given to a spouse, anger, boredom, marrying too young, peer pressure, the existence of an opportunity, disappointment in the marriage, sex addiction, as a way to leave the marriage, and even family expectations!

Types of Affairs

Sometimes adultery is due to an addiction to sex or romance. A new relationship provides passion, excitement, danger, sexual highs, romance, and either greater self-esteem or shame.

Some affairs are due to men who believe that extramarital relationships are something they are entitled to by gender. There is little or no guilt felt by these husbands and their birth families sometimes condone their behavior. There may be peer pressure as well.

Other unfaithful spouses are driven by mid-life crisis (i.e.; fear of aging), anger toward the spouse for real or imagined wrongs, boredom, or disappointment in the marriage or the problems of living. These affairs often happen only if an opportunity presents itself.

The newest type of infidelity is one in which the participants weren’t searching for an affair, but got involved in a friendship at work or on the Internet that turned into an affair. This type of relationship includes emotional intimacy, secrecy and lying, and sexual feelings and actions. There may be peer (societal) pressure to participate in this type of affair as well.

The most serious type of affair is the one in which a married partner falls in love with someone outside the marriage, either unwittingly or as an excuse for leaving. This type of infidelity causes the most destruction of marriages.

Consequences of Infidelity

The consequences of infidelity include: divorce, depression, loss of trust, persistent anxiety, and an overwhelming feeling of loss. Many innocent spouses experience symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder. Consequences of infidelity may also encompass obsessive thoughts about the details of the infidelity, suspiciously watching for indications of infidelity, “fight or flight” symptoms, anger and accusations, and flashbacks.

Results of Infidelity

After infidelity occurs, the partners must decide whether to save the marriage or separate and divorce. Each spouse may want a different outcome. Counselors and psychologists will work with couples to assist them in making a decision and implementing it. Negative emotions and symptoms must be addressed and a “safety zone” established. An atmosphere of honesty must be established with the spouse, while all contact with the partner in the affair must be stopped. The story of the affair must be told and its impact on the marriage addressed. Planning for the future of the marriage leads to healing, and, hopefully, forgiveness. Failing that, a divorce will take place.

If a marriage survives infidelity, it will become stronger and centered on the couple, not just on children; the dangers and temptations of infidelity are understood and addressed in order to avoid it; and the couple develops trust, renewed commitment, and shared responsibility for the ongoing success of the marriage.

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Peter Davids asked:




Why should a man go outside to get what he already has at home? This is very strange but a very true paradox in our society today. A man has a wife at home, but rather than have sex with her, he prefers to go outside to sleep with a prostitute or a girlfriend. What a great paradox of life.

But on a closer look, there are reasons or factors why a man behaves this way. I am not trying to hold brief for any man, neither am I justifying affairs by men. However, I think more women should look at these issues:

1. Are you making sex an enjoyable act for him or just an endurable act? Is your man enjoying you the way he should or you both endure each other during sex? Your man wants you to be a different woman with him every time.

We all hate routine activities. When sex loses its’ creative edge, it loses its’ appeal to your man too. Routine sex is not going to get you both anywhere. You need to introduce new ideas into your sex life to spice it up.

2. Are you giving him peace of mind at home or nagging him? Many men readily confess that they pay a call girl, who gives them good sex without any strings attached or any hassles. It’s unlike their wife at home who always has one complaint or the other and nags them almost always.

Not that the men are perfect or excusable, especially when they neglect their duties at home. But the atmosphere in the house has a lot to do with whether a man has an affair or not.

3. Are you heartily discussing with him or is there a gap now in your relationship? Once there is a gap in communication between the two of you, it provides an avenue for an affair to become feasible.

You need to ensure that you and your man engage in a heart to heart talk regularly. That’s the way to make sure that he still matters a lot to you and to keep his interest in you.

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Gillian Reynolds asked:




They say that women have great intuition when it comes to their husbands, but the same is often true of men in regards to their wives. If you suspect that your wife has begun an adulterous affair you may be left feeling a whole host of emotions including anger and confusion. It can be agonizing to be left wondering whether or not she is indeed seeing another man. If you do already have strong suspicions you need to be aware of some of the subtle warning signs of a cheating wife. If these are present in your relationship chances are that your suspicions are, in fact, true.

One of the warning signs of a cheating wife that many men look past is their wife suddenly starts withdrawing more cash. When a person is cheating, even a woman, they feel the need to pay for certain things in a non-traceable way. This includes romantic lunches and dinners with their lover, gifts and hotel rooms. If you and your wife have a joint bank account and you notice large sums of money missing, this may be a good indication that she’s taken on a lover.

Many women meet their lovers in secluded places. This can include bars or restaurants in an area of the city where no one would recognize her. One of the subtle warning signs of a cheating wife that many husbands overlook is the mileage that is being accumulated on her car. If your wife has to drive a fair distance to meet her lover, she’s going to add up the miles on her car very quickly. A discreet way of checking this is to note the mileage at the beginning of a week and then checking it near week’s end. If her mileage indicates that she’s driving much farther than it takes to get to work or her regular errands, this is a glaring clue.

If she’s suddenly seems impatient with you or the children this is something you should pay special attention to. Although everyone gets stressed from time to time if your wife seems agitated for days on end this may indicate she has a lover. One of the most overlooked signs of a cheating wife is her resentment that she can’t be with her lover. She may take this out on you and the children by acting moody or becoming emotional. Many women develop strong feelings for the man they are cheating with and this will manifest itself in the way she treats you.

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