Cheryl Marland asked:




There are signs that India longs for the dark sky they have lost to light pollution. Many are frustrated as the constellations are being replaced by the reddish glow of light pollution. Their sentiments are described in an article posted in The Week by Malayala Manorama Publications Kochi, Kerala. Jayshree Menon dislikes the excessive light encroaching on Dehli. She misses the mystery and sounds of the night, and the once exquisite view of the stars. Discontented at the pervasive light that invades her apartment even beyond heavy drapes, Jayshree is aggravated enough to do her part to reclaim the night. So is Anita Sharma, who can no longer teach her boys about the constellations because they are no longer visible.

In as little as a generation, the stars have faded due to excessive light. Couples can no longer enjoy a romantic evening stargazing. Glow-in-the-dark stars pasted on a ceiling may be the closest thing that the people of today’s India can come to experiencing the stars. According to Anita, the stars she arranged in constellation formations on her children’s bedroom ceiling may be the only way they have to recognize the stars. Anita doesn’t feel confident they will ever see the genuine stars beyond the simulated light that has caused the night to become indiscernible from the day.

The light has spilled onto other issues as well, affecting human health. It throws off the natural circadian rhythm that the body relies on for sleep and eating cycles. Changing lifestyles may be influencing light pollution levels. At one time, few worked the graveyard shift in India. This has changed with economic expansion and outsourcing opportunities. With so many staying awake at night, the circadian rhythm is disturbed. Fatigue and decreased immunities is a result. This creates problems with Growth Hormone (GH) and melatonin levels. These changes can influence the effects of aging and cancer prevention. Cortisol also plays an important role in the circadian rhythm. The disturbance of Cortisol can cause stress, high blood pressure and weight changes. These issues indicate that light pollution not only causes the sky to fade, but it is causing India to get steadily unhealthier.

One of the reasons for excess light is security, which has since become counterproductive. While the experts try to learn all that they can about the damage of light pollution, India’s youth are counting stars. This movement, known as Taare Sadak Par, began a year ago in response to the dismay of amateur astronomers over a vanishing night sky. As they network to document the skies for later analysis, the damages of light pollution continues.

Many in India see optimism beyond the reddish haze of light pollution, since it is the most reversible form of all types of pollution. It can be reduced simply by turning off the excess lights. Shielding light fixtures and closing the drapes are ways that homeowners can reduce light pollution. According to Bharat Adur of Akash Ganga Astronomical Association, a 60 watt bulb can reduce dark sky visibility by roughly three degrees. It is clear that astronomers require night sky clarity to study the constellations, and obvious that the body requires it. In addition, the children of India are dissatisfied by just listening to legends of the night sky from their parents. Children enjoy stories, but at some point, they want to experience it for themselves.

Replacing existing lights with lower watt, energy efficient bulbs are an excellent place to start. A general rule of thumb is to make sure that lights are pointed downward. Making sure that light fixtures have a shield over them to avoid unnecessary light shining upwards is very important, because light aimed at the sky obstructs the view of the night sky.

As homeowners and business owners we have choices about outdoor lighting. When you are ready to purchase outdoor lighting and/or replace your current fixtures you’ve now got an amazing selection of dark sky lighting fixtures to choose from. Light trespass occurs when lights from a neighboring property enters another household or back yard. This is disturbing and stressful to your neighbors. To keep the lights on only when needed you can install a motion detector on your outdoor lights, in addition to using a timer on lights. The goal is preventing excess light from disturbing the natural night sky and the well-being of others. Switching off lights at a decent hour is considerate, and an obvious way to avoid light trespass. By using these simple measures, not only is light pollution reduced, but light trespass is also avoided.

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Brandon Grittini asked:




Secret affairs can ruin a marriage, but more often than not, they are not a relationship killer. In fact, 82% of marriages affected by an affair actually have happier couples after the affair. The reason is that the affair reveals that something is wrong in the relationship, and most couples want to correct the problems.

While recovering from a secret affair isn’t easy, you can live a happy life with your spouse after the trauma. Among the many things that people need to work on after finding out about a secret affair is how to have sex after infidelity.

This question comes up often from a lot of people. They are trying to work things out, but they just don’t feel right having sex after infidelity. There is a lot of work that needs to go into solving this huge problem, but with the right tools, you can have sex after revealing an affair.

Not being able to resolve this issue can be a relationship killer. Both spouses have to understand the severity and sensitivity of the issue, and know that it may be a long time before you are able to be intimate with your partner again.

Often times the victim in the affair feels as though the reason for the affair is that their spouse was no longer sexually attractive to them any longer. This isn’t always the case. In fact, M. Gary Neuman’s study shows that most men who cheat, in fact cheat with someone they believe to be less attractive than their wife.

Another reason that make this difficult is when the victimized spouse feels that it is lack of performance that caused the affair. It is rare when an affair is caused by lack of performance, but in certain circumstnaces it can be the case.

In the quest for sexual excitement, many people turn to sex books for help. While some books can be good and truly add some excitement, they all focus on the wrong thing. They tell you to change the way you have sex. The true pleasure of sex comes when we are in love with a person, and they are in love with us. With that, you will find total sexual satisfaction. You allow your emotions to take over, and you don’t focus on the physical aspects of sex.

If you have a spouse who loves you, and you combine that love with sex, you will enjoy what many believe to be the ultimate intimate experience; sexual love. This can only be experienced in relationships where the lovers are good friends, know each other’s thoughts, and want to be around each other. Work on being good friends, building trust, and constantly falling in love with your partner and you will experience sexual joy like no other.

One of the hardest things about having sex after an affair is that the victimized spouse is constantly thinking about the cheating spouse and the paramour (illicit lover). They want to know that your attention is on them, not the paramour. You have to be able to communicate to your partner the way you feel, and be able to accept those feelings. There is going to be a strong presence, that while not there in a physical nature, does exist and carries over to the both of you. That presence is the paramour.

An affair will bring about many insecurities, one of them being sexual insecurity. When one or both spouses are sexually insecure, it removes spontaneity from the act, and thus becomes a planned and monotonous, and will lead to boredom and lack of production. When you are finally able to establish intimacy with your partner, there is immense pressure to make up for those insecurities. That is when sex becomes what it never should be, a performance.

When these problems occur, you have to let your partner know that you are constantly comparing yourself to the paramour, and that it is getting in the way of the openness and trust between the two of you. By keeping this communication open, you are able to replace negative feelings with positive one’s, making for a more enjoyable, trusting, and love-able sexual relationship.

It’s also critical not to impose sexual expectations on your partner. It is important to communicate, but to “expect” an orgasm, for instance, is unfair. Dr. Ronnie Edell calls an orgasm “the equivalent of an applause”. It makes the experience feel like a performance, and is sure to lessen sexual pleasure.

An orgasm should never be about, “How did I do?”, or “Now I’m satisfied”. Sex should never be about the orgasm. The orgasm is simply a byproduct of sex. The essence of sex is ‘mutual pleasure’. That is the goal you should be trying to achieve, and focusing on an orgasm, or anything else for that matter, will deprive both of you of the mutual pleasure you should be experiencing.

The essence of sex after infidelity is to re-create the trust you once had, and learn to be more open about your feelings. It is wrong to impose sexual expectations on yourself or your partner. Focus on sex being a free, trusting, emotional experience and you will be having passionate sex with your partner again.

For more information on this topic and many others, pick up a copy of the new E-Book, “Cheating Spouses Revealed”. You can grab your copy now by visiting cheatingspousesrevealed.com

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Veronica L asked:




The number 1 reason men cheat are emotional dissatisfaction. I know you are looking for the signs he is cheating, but think about it for a second is the emotional connection between you and your man going downhill? Men cheat because they do not feel appreciated at home, because they feel like they can not make their woman happy. Is that the case in your relationship? I know you are thinking what about him appreciating me, and HE SHOULD. Cheating is wrong, cheating destroy trust and relationships. It is important to know the reason why most men cheat, now we can look at the signs he is cheating.

What are the signs he is cheating?

1. Emotional disconnection – Is he finding an emotional connection with another woman? Cheating often occurs with a friend, often somebody from work or from a hobby.

2. He spends less time at home – Have you noticed that your husband or boyfriend spend more and more time away from home. Does he work late, did he get himself a new hobby, and does he offer to go grocery shopping when he never did before? This is one of the warning signs he is cheating.

3. Pick fights with you – Does he pick fights with you, often over small things, it almost seems planned so he can leave the house?

4. He does not answer his phone – Does he not answer his cell phone when you call him? Did he at least used to return your call quickly but he does not even do that any more? Is he trying to avoid contact with you?

These are some of the signs he is cheating, there is more…

If you do see the signs he is cheating. Do you think your husband would tell you if he cheated on you? Without being questioned in one research only 7% told their wives about the cheating. 68% never admit to cheating or do so only after their wives have concrete evidence of the cheating. So even if you confront him, he still lies, why? Guilt guilt guilt. A lot of men still love their wives, most men wish they never had the affair and which they could take it all back.

What is important for YOU is to find out the truth, you need to know if you can trust your husband or boyfriend that is why it is so important to get the evidence that will speak for them selves. Evidence that your man can not question or deny, evidence that YOU can trust. So if you have to get more signs he is cheating.

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Le Ann Hairston asked:




Everyday you hear stories of a wife cheating on a husband, but you never thought it would happen to you. You thought everything was going according to your plans as husband and wife. Somewhere down the line your plans and dreams were shattered. Right now you want to know if wife is cheating.

Things have changed between the two of you, well at least for her anyway. The things she use to do for you she don’t do them anymore. Use to be a time when she would try to please you any way she could, now it all about her. It is to the point where she does not care about anything you do for her.

She don’t want to talk to you about anything that going on in her life. She has become distant from you. When she comes home she tries to avoid you at all cost. She closes the bathroom door because she don’t want you to her taking a bath, knowing the two of you use to take baths together.

The signs of a cheating wife can be clearly seen if you want to see them. The clothes see use to wear around you she will not dare wear them for you now. Because she is wearing them for someone else. When she goes to work she dresses different, wearing sexy clothes. Then when she gets home she puts on any old thing.

Every word that comes out of her mouth is a curse word and the sad thing is you are still trying to treat her with the up most respect. If she is starting arguments for nothing, she is using that as a way for you to leave her alone or a way for her to get out of the house.

She will have her friends to call the house so she can get out. Her friends are willing to help her because she has told them some lies about you. They feel as though they are doing the right thing, because they are on the outside looking in they will help her.

The secrets and lies of a wife cheating on husband can be brought to the light. You know the old saying, what’s done in the dark, will come to the light. If you want to know what she is hiding you need to learn how to know if wife is cheating. It is easy to find out when you do it the right way and learn the signs.

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James Walsh asked:




An adulterous person is punished and ostracised by Judaism too. Hinduism does not have a very strong stance against it, but does not encourage it either. While English law cannot convict a spouse for infidelity, extramarital affairs remain the greatest ground for divorce in the UK till date.

Divorce and Infidelity

Three is definitely a crowd when it comes to the marriage bed. The love triangle in literature and films has usually ended in tragedy. The novels that do contain divorce; be it ‘The Rain Maker’ with its brutally abusive husband or ‘Anna Karenina’ with the free spirited but socially oppressed woman, have found clever means of ‘justifying’ matters. The marriage can be abandoned only if it contains villainous elements such as wife beaters, frivolous wives, social stigma or some other obstacle. This helps to justify the ‘other’ man or woman as someone who is a rescuer in some sense. If it is a good marriage, and a good lover, then the end is tragic, and people still dab their eyes after seeing ‘Casablanca’. In the UK, divorce seems to be the accepted way out after an extramarital affair has been discovered, but there are other ways too, and this is what we are about to discuss in detail.

How Affairs Begin

Extramarital affairs usually do not happen in real life as we see them in movies – a ravishing beauty or a handsome stranger doest not happen to cross our path every day with music playing in the background. Some of the typical starters are as follows.